Every once in awhile, a person can feel stuck in life. We have to evaluate our lives and make the decision whether or not to make a change. Do we stick with the everyday life that we’ve become accustomed to or do we create a shift- a reinvention of ourselves- in order to more forward?
The last time I re-evaluated my life, I made the decision to leave the workforce and become a stay at home mother. And up until January of this year, that was exactly who I was. I stayed home with my children each and every day, taking a few college courses each semester for the past six years.
This year, I’ve had a few changes- I decided to start working from home and I’ve also begun writing. Still, when people asked me what I do for a living my response has been “I’m a stay at home mom.”
I started thinking, When do I shift from being a “stay at home mom” to being “Book Manager” or an “author”? When is it okay to transition from one role to the other?
A few weeks ago I decided to look into the concept of “Reinventing Yourself” and low and behold I found the answers I was looking for!
“Change means reinvention. Each time a major shift happens in our lives—leaving a job or a relationship, moving, losing a loved one—we have to take control of who we will become or risk never reaching our full potential.” – TinyBuddha.com
I had to think about the steps to reinventing myself:
Who do I envision myself to be?
What steps do I need to take to make this happen?
Experts in reinvention say we need to find concordance between what really matters to us and the goals we chase. But too often our future plans are overly influenced by other people’s input—the best friend who begs you to join her start-up or the father who desperately wants a grandkid. These external pressures can detach us from our core values. “If you don’t go through a process of self-discovery, but just accept others’ decisions, 10 years later you might find yourself saying, ‘I don’t think that’s me,’” says John Mayer, a professor of psychology at the University of New Hampshire and the author of Personal Intelligence. –PsychologyToday.com
Ok, so now I know who it is I want to be. I’ve envisioned myself in this new life. What’s next? Goals! Setting realistic goals is important- so when I thought, I want to be a published author and a successful Book Manager I had to take a step back and think of a realistic starting point:
Continue to educate myself on new ways of marketing books.
Create a daily schedule and stick to it.
Create an organizing system for maintaining multiple projects.
Set daily/weekly writing goals and deadlines
Create author accounts and begin making connections and interact with readers. (It’s never too early to start marketing!)
Stop thinking of myself as “just a stay at home mom” (lol)
This is what I will be working on this month- the reinvention of M.L. Flickinger.
I’ve invited others to share their stories of reinvention on Paperbacks and Wine. Be sure to check back to read their journeys as well.
Melissa currently studies Human Relations and Creative Writing at University of Iowa. She has a strong interest in psychology (specifically mental health disorders and addictions). Her love of reading led her to a career in book management with Gravity Imprint of Booktrope Publishing. She is a self-proclaimed book nerd, coffee addict and loves all things pumpkin. When she’s not nose deep in a new book, she enjoys long walks, writing and listening to film scores–especially Carter Burwell and Danny Elfman. Follow me: Facebook/PaperbacksandWine Facebook/MLFlicks Twitter: @MelissaFlicks Google+ Co-Hosting #GravityChat on Twitter every Wed. 8pm Central. (Use TweetChat.com to join!)